This is usually a good thing. For example before making a big purchase, I think to myself, "Do I really need this ____?" If the item of debate is an expensive pair of shoes, I might pass. However, if it's a pink and white striped OnePiece Jumpsuit special ordered from England, the answer is YES.
While it may be good for my wallet, I've recently realized that my tendency to over think everything may be getting in the way of my love life. Here's what happens: As soon as I think I might like somebody, I think about any consequences to pursuing it, and then find/make an excuse for why it shouldn't happen/wouldn't work. And then I wonder why I'm home alone reading Jane Eyre while I can hear my roommate having sex in the room across the hall.
You guys, I'm an excuse-maker!! Big time!! For kicks, here are my top 5 excuses for not making out with someone (and why they're dumb):
5. "We're in the same class... things could get weird." Okay, sure. In med school, we see a lot of each other and that could be awkward. But with time, these things pass (and really aren't that big of a deal).
4. "2 years ago, my friends got in a big fight over him/both hooked up with him." Actually, I think this is still a legit excuse.
3. "When he told my roommate he was interested, she responded with, 'She has too much dignity to hook up with you.' And then she told me." Right.
2. "I don't want to ruin the carpool." While this might sound ridiculous, I just need to say (in my defense) that this was a really good carpool. As in 110 North Carpool Lane through Downtown LA during morning rush hour good.
1. "I don't want to ruin the friendship." This is my most common excuse. And it's total bullshit. Chances are, I'm not that good of friends with the guy. And if we really are that close, our friendship will survive anyway.
So there you have it... here are my top excuses. What are yours?
6. Rebound freakiness.
ReplyDeleteI have heard through the grapevine that since G & I broke up a year a half ago he has been nearly engaged once and is currently engaged (to another). This is all quite surprising to me since our relationship was NOT on the fast track to holy matrimony. It would appear then, that since our light and carefree relationship came to a mutual and amicable end, a perfectly fun and adorable dude has somehow become freakishly addicted to proposing. Was that my fault or was he just really good at hiding his freakiness from me? Also, what was wrong with me? If G is so eager to propose at a drop of a hat, am I missing some quality which prevented such a (albeit unwanted) advance?
Some of my excuses...
ReplyDelete1. He just ate a hamburger. (I'm very vegetarian. Ew.)
2. He has a girlfriend in another city although he sticks his hand down up the back of my shirt and spends all his time flirting with me.
3. I want to ruin the friendship, not get stuck with a boyfriend.
i can't respond, it would be much too revealing!
ReplyDeleteHere's another...
ReplyDelete"We would have ugly kids!"
Time to blog again!
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